Highly Sensory People: Knowing And Self Love

Highly Sensory People: Knowing And Self Love

Learning about your HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) trait is like getting a special permit, one that allows you to lay defenses down and lets your essence shine through.

It’s a hall pass into understanding why that bothersome feeling of being a ‘square peg in the round hole’ always haunted you.  

The information is powerful - it legitimizes. There is nothing more reassuring than finally recognizing who you are.

A Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), a phrase coined by Elaine Aron Ph.D. describes an innate trait that about 15 to 20 % of the population share. It is found in animals and insects. You might even notice that your pets have the trait.  

HSP’s process the world differently. If you imagine all the senses you have; hearing, sight, smell, touch - these senses for HSPs are a little bit like seeing, hearing, smelling, and perceiving in living color. It’s also why this trait’s scientific name is known as SPS (Sensory Processing Sensitivity). HSP’s are highly attuned to subtle details and can sense, see and feel things that most are not concerned with. They are highly intuitive and highly empathic.  

Some biological differences HSP’s have because of their trait are an overcharged insula, a very responsive amygdala and there is also research that suggests that the 5-HTLPR gene (the serotonin gene), runs a little different for HSP’s.  

I love and respect what Elaine Aron has done for so many of us. She has helped millions to self-actualize and awake to the core and being of their soul.  

However, I would like to move toward that which has not been proven about this trait. I would like to trust what I feel and know and say it is my opinion that within all HSP’s lies a powerful sixth sense. It’s here for me that the Highly Sensitive Person turns into the Highly Sensory Person.  

However, I think it’s fair to say that societal conditioning around the word ‘sixth’ or ‘extra’ sensory can frighten people away from identifying with their trait. Because we all want to fit in to one degree or another and no one wants to be seen or thought of as the ‘crystal ball yielding’ friend, daughter, or coworker.  

Because of that, there were many times I tried dropping being highly sensory as if it was a habit I could do away with. I wanted to throw it away like a balled up candy wrapper because sometimes it just isn’t convenient and sometimes I want to feel like I have a choice in the matter.

But that only works for so long; days, weeks and even months. But then you get the nudge and the tap on your shoulder and you know they’re waiting for you. Waiting for you to step into the role you chose before you came here. The role as a messenger. The HSP’s life mission and work.

It is very special.

And I do not mean ‘special’ in an exclusionary way like I can do this and you can’t because as we all know, that isn’t correct. Everyone is intuitive and everyone has a sixth sense but what I mean is that there is a naturalness about it for the HSP.  

You see I am tall, 5’9” and everyone just assumed I would always be good at basketball. And so I played when I was a little tyke. But it just wasn’t natural for me. Sure, I can play a game of horse and hold my own, but my future was never going to be in basketball because it never felt good in my body - it never felt like I was at home.  

The same is true for the HSP and their intuitive ability, it may feel unnatural to you at first because of your conditioning but, there is something about it that will keep calling you back. Then, the more you learn, and the more you practice, you begin to realize this is where you belong.  

So take your hall pass, walk down the corridor- pass the naysayers, and those that might beat you down, and walk into your true sensory nature – it’s where the answers you seek are waiting for you and where self-love begins.